Friday, October 9, 2009
Insta-Regrets
Does anyone else have the same affliction as me? I walk away from encounters (in person, on the phone, anything) and have instant-regrets about what I said. It's not so much that I said anything unkind, but that I didn't say any of the things I had thought or intended to say. It's rare that I don't end a conversation thinking "Oh, shoot, I was going to tell her that I liked her haircut" or "Oh, man, I totally forgot to congratulate him on his new job" or something like that. Even with my closest friends, I feel like an idiot because I tense up and sound completely unlike what I'm thinking or feeling. I often think of calling the person right back and going "Hey, remember 2 minutes ago when you said that thing about _____? I know I just said 'Ok, cool' but what I meant was 'I totally agree with you, I've thought the same thing, and I think that would be a great idea. Maybe add butter for a richer consistency.'" Maybe that last sentence is case specific, but you get the idea.
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I think a little bit of butter can improve any situation.
ReplyDeleteI try to make up for that problem by saying everything that comes to my mind, always thinking, "this will make it so that I truly express myself to people".
ReplyDeleteThis usually results in me saying things that sound like insults... Basically this is just a lose-lose situation.
See, yeah, that's the thing! I used to say everything that came to mind, but then I kept insulting people, which I regretted later. So over the years, in an attempt to not say regrettable things, I've switched so far in the other direction that I don't even say neutral things the right way. It's total nonsense.
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